Introducing Your Boyfriend to Your Family This Christmas Season
By Maria Bonvissuto
You and that cute guy you’ve been going out with for a while are finally official. Things are going well—really well—and you’re soaring along in new-relationship bliss until one particular question brings you back down to earth: When should your boyfriend meet the family?
Regardless of your relationship with your family, introducing them to your significant other can seem like an intimidating prospect. Each family’s circumstances are unique, as are the temperaments and history of the couple, but here are some general things to consider in deciding when to introduce him.
How secure are you in your relationship?
The first few months of dating are full of discovery and learning about one another. You’re navigating each other’s expectations and hopes for the relationship as well as your modes of communication. Throwing family into the mix early on can cause pressure on a couple to rush or to slow down the relationship. Ultimately, you and your significant other should both feel comfortable in the foundation and direction of your relationship before introducing him to your family.
What is your family’s dynamic?
Are they loud, boisterous and prone to tease? Are they distant? Do they carry very high standards? Do you struggle in navigating some family relationships? Consider your own relationship with your family and how they might mix with your boyfriend’s temperament. Discussing what to expect beforehand and deciding on conversation boundaries will make for a smooth visit.
Are you bringing your significant other home for a holiday?
The holidays can be a particularly fun time to introduce him to family but are often full of many activities, extended family and intensified stress. Some boyfriends might benefit from easing into the introduction on a typical weekend without the holiday hustle and bustle or extended family. Depending on your boyfriend’s temperament, however, introducing him to your family in a setting where he gets to see your holiday traditions could be a wonderful bonding experience, helping him to understand your family’s culture in a special way. Once again, it’s all about assessing your situation and the many unique factors involved.
Lastly, pray to the Holy Family for guidance in making this decision and for a successful meeting!
